Uh-oh ...Amor Platonicus
Platonic love?
Love without making love?
Good for priests and nuns, good for hyperidealists and idiosurrealists, but not for me.
Now, don't get me wrong. I completely understand that, in some relationships, sex may be physically impossible. Health issues can turn off the tap, so to speak, but even then, you don't always need a gurgling hose in hand to make love.
Passion can be fulfilled in many forms, and a gentle caress of words can travel many miles to unite flesh to flesh. Well, it needn't be gentle, I suppose.
I think intimacy, in all its variations, is what differentiates a relationship from a friendship. You can have a friendship with someone you love, but you can't have a relationship with someone with whom you don't make love or have some form of intimate relations.
Passionate love requires, no, demands its connection beyond the insistence, "I love you." Passionate love seeks fulfilment, in every sense of the word. Without that intimate connection, you only have mashed potatoes without the gravy, rice without the soy sauce, roast beef without the horseradish, strawberries without the whipped cream ...
Yeah, I don't know why the food metaphors either.
Oh, and don't be whining about being too stressed, too tired, too fat, too old, too whatever-your-excuse-is. The message you're sending is that you don't give a corn dog about the other person.
And don't be saying, "We both decided it was best this way." One of you decided. Trust me, the other is just playing along in total frustration or, worse still, fulfilling the need somewhere else.
Love relationship without love making? Pfffft ... who you fooling?
C'mon ... time to get your groove on.
Platonic love?
Love without making love?
Good for priests and nuns, good for hyperidealists and idiosurrealists, but not for me.
Now, don't get me wrong. I completely understand that, in some relationships, sex may be physically impossible. Health issues can turn off the tap, so to speak, but even then, you don't always need a gurgling hose in hand to make love.
Passion can be fulfilled in many forms, and a gentle caress of words can travel many miles to unite flesh to flesh. Well, it needn't be gentle, I suppose.
I think intimacy, in all its variations, is what differentiates a relationship from a friendship. You can have a friendship with someone you love, but you can't have a relationship with someone with whom you don't make love or have some form of intimate relations.
Passionate love requires, no, demands its connection beyond the insistence, "I love you." Passionate love seeks fulfilment, in every sense of the word. Without that intimate connection, you only have mashed potatoes without the gravy, rice without the soy sauce, roast beef without the horseradish, strawberries without the whipped cream ...
Yeah, I don't know why the food metaphors either.
Oh, and don't be whining about being too stressed, too tired, too fat, too old, too whatever-your-excuse-is. The message you're sending is that you don't give a corn dog about the other person.
And don't be saying, "We both decided it was best this way." One of you decided. Trust me, the other is just playing along in total frustration or, worse still, fulfilling the need somewhere else.
Love relationship without love making? Pfffft ... who you fooling?
C'mon ... time to get your groove on.
What??? love without sex ??? That's like having pie crust without the filling !! I agree with all you have said here Kennedy :-)
ReplyDeleteHaha ... well I usually skip the crust ... ;o}
Delete~smile~ ... have to agree with you on this one too!!
ReplyDeleteI have never understood those who dont have sex because they have a headache, or are stressed out ... surely sex would be the perfect remedy ... release!
Best cure-all that I know of ...
DeleteDef gotz that righ' ;) I know people that are still scarred by their ex's lack of intimacy. There has to be a connection for a relationship.
ReplyDeleteAnd there are many forms of intimacy, I guess, but probably nothing more intimate than making love ...
DeleteYou're right on target about everything you've written here, KJ. And no, distance, in this technological age, does not diminish the quality of a relationship one iota.
ReplyDelete~M
Yes, the Internet offers a whole new range of intimacy ...
DeleteIt is not fun living without love or sex, I hope I get my groove on before it gets too late LOL
ReplyDeletelove the tune
Oh, it's never too late ... well, unless you're six feet under ... but we won't think about that quite yet ...
DeletePassionate love seeks fulfilment..true indeed.
ReplyDeleteYes, that is just the nature of life, I think ...
DeleteSex sure is complicated. :) I have a friend whose lover will only make love with a paper bag over his head. What's with that?!
ReplyDeleteWell, that's a little beyond weird ... maybe s/he wants to be the "unknown lover" ...???
DeleteNot really a promising 'come hither', but lately I'm in 'some kind of nothing much' but a little spring gardening and contemplating making my own pasta. Do I really want to make it myself? How about making my own ice-cream? What for? These are the sort of mind-numbing questions I've been busy with. No sex relationship in sight.
ReplyDeleteAh, yes, it's the arrival of spring in your part of the world. The change in season will hopefully brighten your mood.
DeleteAnd, don't worry, the sex will come ... ;o}